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Title: Developing a feeling vocabulary Citation: Reprinted with permission from the Davidson Institute for Talent Development.
Author: Sharon Lind Online since: November 2003
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One of the most important asset emotionally intense people, and those who live and work with them, need to develop is an extensive feeling vocabulary. Not being able to ACCURATELY articulate (in words or through actions, music, art, movement, journaling, etc) our and other's feelings can lead to frustration and a reluctance to communicate. Learning the nuances of the expression of emotion leads to validation of feelings and it gives partners, parents, friends, and siblings the language to help the intense person to recognize, accept, express and understand their myriad of feelings.

Here are a number of activities that help to increase a feeling vocabulary. Try these and then have your family create their own.
  • Place a list of feeling words on the refrigerator to peak curiosity (see the following list)
  • Choose a feeling word for the day -- jointly look it up in the dictionary and be sure everyone in the family is now familiar with its meaning
  • Chose a feeling word and act out how that might look; draw a picture of the feeling; create a dance that expresses the felling, etc.
  • Pick a word and find all the synonyms you can for it. Talk about how the feelings differ. For example...
Possible Synonyms for ANGRY Possible Synonyms for HAPPY
acrimonious
angry
annoyed
choleric
enraged
furious
incensed
inflamed
infuriated
irate
irked
irritated
mad
miffed
provoked
resentful
upset
blissful
chipper
contented
delighted
ecstatic
elated
euphoric
exhilarated
glad
happy
jolly
jovial
joyful
merry
pleased
rapturous
thrilled
  • Pick a feeling, find all the synonyms, and then place them in order of intensity from mild to intense. For example:
miffed
â
irked
â
irritated
â
upset
â
angry
â
incensed
â
inflamed
glad
â
happy
â
delighted
â
joyful
â
thrilled
â
rapturous
â
ecstatic
  • REMEMBER feelings are subjective--it is possible to have three people order feeling words differently.
abandoned
accepted
adequate
afraid
ambivalent
amused
angry
annoyed
anxious
appreciated
astounded
awed
bad
beautiful
betrayed
bitter
bored
brave
burdened
calm
capable
captivated
certain
challenged
cheerful
cherished
clever
comfortable
compassionate
competitive
concerned
confident
confused
conspicuous
contented
courageous
courteous
cruel
crushed
curious
deceitful
defeated
defiant
delighted
destructive
determined
different
disappointed
discouraged
disgusted
dissatisfied
distracted
disturbed
divided
dominated
doubtful
dubious
eager
ecstatic
elated
embarrassed
empty
encouraged
envious
excited
evil
exasperated
exhausted
fascinated
fearful
flustered
foolish
forced
forgiving
fortunate
frantic
friendly
frightened
frustrated
full
furious
glad
good
grateful
greedy
guilty
gullible
happy
hate
helpful
helpless
hesitant
homesick
hopeful
hopeless
honored
horrible
humiliated
hurt
hysterical
ignored
immortal
important
imposed upon
impressed
indifferent
infatuated
infuriated
insignificant
inspired
insulted
interested
intrigued
irritable
irritated
intimidated
irritated
isolated
jealous
joyous
jumpy
judged
kind
lazy
left out
lonely
longing
lost
lovable
loved
loving
low
mad
manipulated
mean
methodical
miserable
naughty
nervous
nice
obnoxious
odd
offended
outraged
out of place
overwhelmed
pained
panicked
peaceful
persecuted
perturbed
pitied
pleasant
pleased
pressured
pretty
proud
pushy
put down
puzzled
rage
regretful
rejected
relaxed
relieved
resentful
responsible
restless
rewarded
ridiculous
sad
satisfied
scared
self-confident
shocked
sick
silly
skeptical
sneaky
solemn
spiteful
startled
stereotyped
stingy
strange
stunned
stupid
suffering
suspicious
sure
surprised
sympathetic
talkative
tempted
tenacious
tense
tentative
terrible
terrified
thankful
threatened
thwarted
tired
trapped
troubled
trusted
ugly
uncertain
uncomfortable
uneasy
unequaled
unloved
unmatched
unsettled
used
violent
vehement
vulnerable
weary
wicked
wonderful
worried